No matter what I did, the windows update component would not install. If you don't install this, you can't scan for patches you need.
Here's how I fixed it.
There is a side option that says "More Options" I clicked that and chose always trust. I closed my browser and relaunched windows update. This time it loaded just fine!
The next problem I ran into was when trying to select it to install the Microsoft update and not just windows update. The Active X just kept crashing. I had to turn off "Enable memory protection to help mitigate online attacks”.
To disable it go to Tools -> Internet Options -> Advanced Tab -> Scroll down to “Enable memory protection to help mitigate online attacks”
Click ok and restart your browser. Try to reload the Microsoft Update site, and this time it shouldn't crash.